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Wednesday, 21 November 2012

Hysterical.

NOW, don't get upset, girls. It's only rape.

It's a sign you're attractive, you're wanted, that you can fit in, and have male approval. It's because you dress a certain way, drink too much, go out too often, or because your menfolk don't stop you doing those things.

It's not your fault, of course, but it's just a bit of fun. You like it really. And if you're a bit too young or a bit too troubled well, you've got to learn the lesson sometime. And we'll look after you, and we won't hurt you more than we absolutely have to, if you're good and don't tell a soul.

Because if you do tell anyone they're not going to believe you. Not you, from the children's home, nor you, whose parents don't pay much notice. Not you, who the police are already fed up with, nor you, who had a drunken row with her boyfriend and walked home through the park on her own.

Even if you're white, middle-aged, middle-class, speak the right way to the right people and were stone-cold sober wearing sensible shoes and corduroy while walking the dog one winter afternoon, no-one will think it possible a whole gang of people raped, stabbed, beat you and left you for dead.

People think that sort of thing just doesn't happen, because it doesn't get reported and when it does no-one believes them. So when you run off screaming to the police they'll write it down because they have to, then roll their eyes at each other about another silly girl who's got herself in a pickle. If you've been sensible enough not to scrub all sign of him away and there's a bit of forensic evidence the geeks might mess it up or drop it, and if it gets as far as a jury you'll be accused of lying, whoring, stupidity and mental illness.

Much better, when you're raped, to pull your knickers back up, go home and get on with things. Tell yourself you were stupid to get in that situation, and he was only doing what you gave him the opportunity to.

Maybe after a few years pass, you grow up a bit, have time to think, and worry that man will do it again to you or to someone else or learn that he already has, so pluck up the courage to complain, the very government of this noble country of ours will tell you it is the fantasy of an ovary-driven, inferior mind.

When 2,409 children were found by the Deputy Children's Commissioner (who's a woman) to have been sexually abused by gangs in the space of just 14 months - and that these figures were grossly under-reported and many police forces did not bother to keep proper records - official spokesmen (who are men) dismissed it as "hysterical" and "highly emotional".

They told journalists it was "difficult to overstate the contempt" with which they regarded the claims by the report's author and, by extension, the children who said they were raped.

Rape, you see, is nothing to do with rape. No no no, it's because of the colour of someone's skin, the behaviour of the female complaining, Page 3 girls' two-dimensional breasts. It's a political football, something with which it is possible for those with a cause to hit their opponents where it hurts, which is never their vagina.

Don't like Muslims? Let's bang on about rape. Don't like breasts? Let's bang on about rape. Want to bash the police because they've been irritating you? Well I've got an idea, let's bang on about rape.

Let's not, at any point, actually pay any attention to people like Teegan, raped from the age of 12 by a Turkish man who had befriended her, threatened her family, beat her and sold her on to others for £500 an hour, along with other girls whose photographs and ages were included in a special rape catalogue given to the 'customers'.

Let's not listen to Shaida, 17, abused by a family member, threatened with a forced marriage to cover up her 'shame', attacked by older men she turned to for help, then beaten for being pregnant.

Let's ignore Rebecca, 15, a virgin bullied by a gang of girls into submitting to rape by a boy in the school toilets while he filmed it on his phone.

The only contempt it is difficult to overstate is that with which rape victims are regarded by our government, judiciary, police, politicians, general public and everyone else with an axe to grind.

We have just witnessed a massive scandal, which is yet to be resolved, relating to sexual offences never reported, never acted on, and never accepted as true from as far back as 1959 and linked to hospitals, children's homes, hospitals, prisons for the criminally insane, Parliament and the state broadcaster.

And why in the name of everlasting hell do you think it took us so long to find out about it?

It's not because anyone involved was Asian. It's not because it's all the fault of glamour models or immigrants.

It's because it doesn't happen to men in suits, uniforms, and judicial robes as often as it happens to women and girls who don't have a cat in hell's chance of protecting themselves from something they should never have to protect themselves from in the first place.

It's because there are men and boys who are not ever told that they should not do those things and will get in trouble if they do.

There are millions of men who are Asian, Muslim, or look at glamour models' pictures. They do not all go on to rape anyone as a result, so to say their genes, faith or habits cause rape is illogical and based on fear, not fact.

Of the 1,514 attackers of 2,409 children, 545 were white, 415 were Asian, 244 were black, 49 were mixed race and the rest were 'other' or undisclosed. But seeing as that information came from only 20 police forces while 19 didn't bother to provide a single statistic to the report's authors those proportions cannot be relied on, and even those that did have not detailed offenders' faiths.

Men and boys rape women and girls because they want to control them. They want to subjugate them so they can prostitute them, they want to make themselves feel strong, they want to attack something they dislike - they want, and they take.

The few people who behave that way do so because the courts let men who film up women's skirts walk free. They do it because the police expected to investigate properly can't always be bothered. They do it because the Crown Prosecution Service thinks females who talk to newspapers must be lying. They do it because rape is blamed on skin, faith, drink, broken homes and broken minds.

They do it because the judges, police, politicians, spin doctors, government and yes, journalists too, propagate the idea that rape is about pretty much anything except bad men doing bad things because they damn well feel like it and are allowed to get away with it by idiots who dismiss and denigrate it rather than stare it full in the face and say NO.

Perhaps if they did that more often, then when women and girls say no they might actually be listened to. If I were raped, I think I'd deal with it myself rather than rely on the state to do anything useful.

The only hysteria about this report, admittedly a draft but no doubt published to try to shame a few more agencies into coughing up useful statistics they'd rather not for the full version, is the way in which it has been received.

The way fact, logic and common sense about rape and sexual abuse are ignored while mainly men flap about in fear at the sky falling on their heads and try to blame it on everything except the fact the institutions they have built and maintain without wish for change or improvement fail women and children on an industrial scale.

Even when the facts are plain - even when logic tells you the figures are probably worse than we know - men can still laugh it off, kick it into the long grass, or blame it on something they'd like to blame for everything.

It's sort of hysterical, really. I wish the silly, inferior-minded men would realise it's none of those things.

It's only rape.

27 comments:

Selina said...

Flawless explanation

Jill said...

Oh, well said! "My penis couldn't help it cos she led me on". Can you imagine a serious defence of "My fist couldn't help it because he wound me up"?!

Ciaron Goggins said...

What of false rape allegations? 10 to 12% of the total.

newshoney said...

Eloquently argued

Anonymous said...

Oh shut up Ciaron. What a useless comment.

Lily said...

This right here is sad, confusing and terrifying: money being raised for raped 10-year old who became pregnant in foster care http://www.achildandherbaby.com/#!home/mainPage

Joe Daniels said...

To take up just one of your many good points, the majority of Muslim men are not rapists/paedos. The problem is that those who are have a much better chance of evading the system than white (for want of a better word) men, because a police officer's future can still be hobbled by a charge of racism. This is just why a senior (retired) officer said there was no justice for the 60 girls groomed and raped in Blackpool, not to mention Charlene Downes who was killed, with the police secretly recording her murderers recording the act.

It's not about religion or colour or immigration status, it's about culture. And when our politicians start tackling beard-and-burqa cultural colonialism, then the majority of "Asians" can look forward to not being tarred with the same brush.

Julian Hall said...

Hard-hitting - deservedly so! - concise and absolutely right on all counts. Rape isn't about the sex, it's about control and 'because they can'.

Great piece!

Anonymous said...

I do need to add it's not just girls who are raped. In all it's forms it is destructive and leaves scars. It's about power and control not just sexual gratification. The simple point is that society needs to grow up and realise the problem is larger than it realised and NOW not in the relative safety of 30 years ago. Part of the issue is that people don't like to think about bad things happening now, to their own children or the girl/boy next door, they see life as simpler to ignore it, turn a blind eye, they are too busy...

Smudger said...

What of them. Just means that 88 to 90% of the allegations are true. You troglodyte.

Kev murray said...

Ciaron - can you actually read? My reaction to this was how the hell do we help these vulnerable young girls, yours is to worry about a false rape conviction? Given 54% of rapes are not reported the chances of being falsely accused would be at least half your number, so you don't have to worry too much.

Minuteman said...

Love this article, and whilst not directly related I cannot help but reflect on the fact that the Church of England will not ordain female Bishops, my... what a lot of problems those vaginas cause.
Treat women equally and cut the F*****g crap.

Anonymous said...

Women and children have never been protected in our society and I can't see that changing anytime soon. Many of those abused or raped, in childhood or adulthood, never report it. They do precisely what you've said you'd do Foxy, and deal with it themselves because they know how they'll be treated if they make a complaint to the authorities - contempt, derision and disbelief will be heaped on them in bucketloads, as has been only too evident in recent weeks.

Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiments above and deeply sympathise with girls like Teegan, Rebecca and Shaida, lets not forget boys like Stephen, Jonny and Mark (names changed):

Stephen, a 10 year old boy permanently disabled as a result of violent sexual assault.

Jonny, a 23 year old who hung himself because of the abuse he had been subjected as a child aged 6-14.

Mark, who was sexually and physically abused in his family home. Mark went off the rails and got in trouble with the police and at aged 12 he was sent to an approved school (unrelated to any of the schools in recent news reports) where he was sexually and physically abused again. Mark suffered a mental breakdown in his early twenties and was hospitalised. He has long term drug and alcohol related problems and has been under the care of a psychiatrist, on and off, for the past 30 years.

Anonymous said...

Ciaron - false allegations happen at the same rate as every other crime; burglary, assault between men, whatever. Yet the myth of 'crying rape' is far too common. Just another way of making it more difficult for the shamefully few women who DO report their rape to report - why would they when they're not likely to be believed anyway? Do you really think that rape doesn't happen and all women are liars? - Holly S

Angeline said...

To the person who said "what about the false claims" actually as someone who volunteers for rape crisis, have you not read the article properly? have you seen a rape kit? The f~cking intrusion , the violation after being violated already, the fact that you are shit scared to go ahead with allegations adn persuasion even by some female officers to drop the case in order to "get over it" faster? I could go ON! dont believe everything you hear about in the news! Yes there may be the odd case which is VERY few and far between, but hardly ever. Look at the woman who withdrew when her husband was repeatedly raping her but due to the system, she was jailed for wasting police time. I could go on! To the person who wrote this, WELL DONE on telling it how it is.

Anonymous said...

Says who Ciaron? Men?

Anonymous said...

I heard 2% of REPORTED rapes. And 6.5% of reported rapes reach conviction. And it is estimated that 95% are never reported. That's a tiny anount. Stats from http://www.nus.org.uk/en/campaigns/womens/britain-has-worst-rape-conviction-rate-/

Dave said...

This is more like it. Top quality stuff.

Anonymous said...

Doesn't help the false allegation statistic when the justice system in this country is as corrupt as it is - a friend of mine was raped and it went to the courts, where HER OWN solicitor told her to admit she was lying, and - suffering from mental problems at the time - she took what was sold to her as 'the easy way out'. So she ends up with a criminal record and the perpetrator of such a horrible debilitating experience walks free, she gets branded a liar, he goes on to potentially and probably do it again.

janefae said...

Brilliant!

Garry Burkhalter said...

How any self respecting man defend rape? It is vile disgusting act against another human being. A person who thinks otherwise is insane and that person should be locked up for a full mental health examination.

I can say without a doubt that if something that horrible happened to one of my girls. That after I'm finished with them, they would be lucky if they did not need to sit for a piss in the rest of their days.

Marina S said...

So do we know who those "government sources" are who've been slamming the report? I'm not too surprised they don't want to break cover, but if we're going to oppose those comments effectively then it's better to have named opponents.

MrsD said...

What an amazing & eloquent article

Dafydd Oliver said...

Good article, with many good points raised. It's shameful that women are too scared to report rapes because they (justifiably) feel they won't be supported or taken seriously. It's even more shameful that men think that they can rape in the first place and that they think that they can get away with it.

I agree with Kev above that the logical, normal reaction to this article is to be repulsed by what happens to rape victims and to want to change the system so as to help the victims. However, false allegations of rape undoubtedly don't help the situation, as very clumsily mentioned (and without any hint of empathy or sensitivity) by Ciaran above - if claims of rape were all treated properly then the number of women (and men) willing to testify that they were attacked & raped would surely increase, making the percentage of false allegations smaller and smaller over time.

My only quibble with the article, was the mention of the Turkish man in the reference to teegan - there was no need to mention his nationality. What you've inadvertently done there is drop the tone/style of the that part of the article to Daily Mail standards - i.e. where they routinely mention someone's race before mentioning something derogatory about them or before detailing a crime (real or alleged). It's very rare for the race or nationality to be relevant in such circumstances. I know you make the point in the article that race & religion is not a factor in rape, so it was a shame to see that little bit slip in.

Foxy said...

If mentioning someone's nationality is now racist, that's ridiculous. Teegan is, as you can probably tell from the name, white. Shaida is Asian, as is also perfectly obvious. The children mentioned in the report had their race and that of their attackers detailed, and it is from that report those facts were taken. It is not a slip or otherwise to say where someone derives from, and as is quite clear it matters not a damn.

The point is white, Asian and black girls are raped by white, Asian and black men. Saying they are white, Asian and black is not racist, nor a slip, nor something which should not be mentioned in case it causes offence.

Dafydd Oliver said...

My point wasn't that it was racist to mention his nationality, my point was that his nationality was irrelevant to the crime and that it served no useful purpose to mention it. The mention of his nationality did not cause offence but surely would only cloud the issue.

Ciaron Goggins said...

The 2% reported was from Brownmillers "Against our will" she admitted she needed a v low fig so chose 2% at random

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